While it might be completely tempting to sometimes let fantasies go just a little further and each and every one of us has let wishful thinking go too far occasionally…it’s always good to know where you should stop depending on the situation. One such thing is when interacting with cam girls. The attention and interested of a beautiful woman is an intoxicating feeling and it’s a rare man that can resist the siren’s call as it were. But while enjoying yourself and sometimes losing yourself in the moment is a must, keeping yourself rooted in reality is complementary to that.
The women that captivate your gaze (and much more of course) on those many video chat sites are there to make a living. That is not to say they are not enjoying themselves and not having a genuinely good time. But it is in fact their job…and a bad day for them online means less money from the total that they need for their day to day lives. As such there might be moments in which what you think is a reaction to you or something that you did is just a little frustration venting related only to how their they has gone so far. After you understand this, interacting with them will take a very slight different angle…some might say actually to the better. Since you are both very much aware of what your stances on you can be more relaxed to who needs what. But then again that is more of a person by person, relationship by relationship factor.
Another important factor is that they do in fact a person life. Maybe the kind of interaction you are looking for requires a bit more emotional investment than the regular private chat but that doesn’t mean that it becomes real then and there…people go ages until finding the right person to click with and have a good couple’s life. They key to this is suspension of disbelief. You need to understand that she will be taking those fancy heels off eventually and go home to waste a day just in a bathrobe and with frumpy hair…that only means that you have to enjoy the moment for what it is right at that time. Think of it as a one night stand in which both of you just let go of who you really are to get lost in the moment. A cold hard truth is that some of them may well have a serious relationship at home…that doesn’t mean you should suddenly not enjoy her attention anymore. Again, it is about how the both of you are spending that time together. There is no reason why both of you shouldn’t be enjoying yourselves for that that window of time you spend with her exclusively. That is what you need to do on your part as a member, suspension of disbelief. The rest is on her to balance out emotionally and mentally for herself in her own time.
There is nothing wrong going for the “single nympho wanting me right now!” fantasy…you just need to understand that it might or might not be true. And also irrelevant. Another related fact is that she in fact might not feel what you think she feels for you. And that is fine again…think of it if in the middle of sex we’d all say exactly what goes on in our mind at every moment. Think of the many, so very many, moments of “good I wish he/she would cum faster…my back is killing me”, “I really should get my knee checked it’s starting to hurt again” or “hmm…who knew it’s supposed to bend that way” awkward conversations each and every one of us would be having. In the heat and passion of the moment you want to hear how good things are actually going and eventually what you could be doing to make them better. The situation here stays the same. Be into it with the part of the mind that you should be…models will not fall in love or lust with you desperately after a few minutes of interaction and it is absurd to think they should or can for that matter. Enjoy the ride (yes, the damn ride) for what it is. You should also know how to behave. Yes this your fantasy, yes you are here for a reason…but in front of you there still is a real woman with real feelings and emotions. So act accordingly…talk to her about what you want or need to do, no matter how weird you think it is she has probably heard it before and will know how to approach the situation. If you just start by calling her a bitch and being a complete boor she has no reason to believe that you aren’t one and are just trying to do your own thing. The interaction is first and foremost (at least for the first couple of sessions spent together) at first sight so she has no way to know what gets you going or for that matter nor do you know what she’s ok with and the small nothings that make such an interaction so much better. Now, I’m not saying jump to the rose petals strewn at her feet and diamond earrings frame of mind…just realize that you are two consenting adults that are about to have a good time together. As with all things between two people…communication is key.
Another common complaint you hear among the models is about members with a “savior” complex. You know the kind, the one that comes to her to tell her that she is wasting her life (or honor, or dignity or whatever the fuck else) doing this and they should let him show her the proper way to be happy. Come the fuck off it…a girl doing this and being comfortable with her life probably has it together a tad better than most people and you are not going to show her “the way” or make her understand the error of her ways. You both are there for a reason and you should stick to it. As I mentioned above…in front of you there is a person with her own life, troubles, wishes and things that make her happy. She knows better who she is and what road she is taking. If she so chooses to share that with you and asks for genuine advice by all means be the one that is morally supportive.
All in all, what my half coherent rant is about is to realize that in front of you there is a beautiful girl willing to indulge into fantasies that have been burning in your head. Do not waste the time thinking of what you shouldn’t and focus on what’s important. That way you make sure to have a great time and she can reciprocate in such a manner that won’t let you wondering what is wrong. Doesn’t that sound just about right?