A man’s perspective
I got this thought a couple of days ago. I was out with some friends for a couple of beers and during a conversation about…something…I don’t really remember at the moment, a friend asked me about some earrings she bought and that she wanted a man’s point of view about them. Since I have the interest most men do in said jewellery my answer was a very well thought out “They look nice on you.” (Riveting stuff I know). However the exchange did send me a bit down memory lane and I thought back to all the times I had to answer the very same question for the models I was working with which in turn made me wonder if I was of any actual use to be honest.
So here’s the thing. If you happen to work in an environment that is made up predominately out of women there are a few things that tend to happen. Mind you, take this as a statistic of things that happen more often than not, not as a rule. Anyway, for starters, as a man you will end up with somewhat of a “moral obligation” to fix anything that is even remotely fixable…be it the coffee machine or a router…you’re the man. Be prepared for them to be slightly disappointed in you if you can’t even if you don’t know shit about coffee machines. Over time you will also be privy to the most girly discussions imaginable as they adapt to you being around and most of the time you will just end up more confused than you started, especially if you have to participate.
Which brings me to the topic I was slowly rambling towards to. In those discussions you will be asked quite frequently for you man’s opinion. Personally it has always stumped me a little because as mentioned above…how much do you think I know about earrings and such. But that got me thinking…given the context of where we were working it did make a lot of sense. In video chat the girls are supposed to try and present an image for all the men out there looking at them… and while a single lost guy amidst them isn’t much of a sample group he can provide a point of view that interests them. And that is exactly the simple one I was pointing to earlier…sure, I don’t know much about earrings and why they are a beautiful pair or not but that was not what the answer should be in the first place. “You look pretty in them” is exactly what needed to be said because she wanted to know how she looks from a man’s point of view in regards to sexual attraction since it is exactly that captivating and sexy image she is trying to put out there.
Now…most men are built from the same mould I am…so we’re not very good at dealing with more emotions at once (especially if sexual attraction is one of them). What we tend to be very good at is compartmentalizing… So until I got the hang of how working between a lot of cam girls as the single male around most of the times I just slotted things into their proper (in my mind at least) places. As in, we are co-workers and the interaction is as such. And that lasted an embarrassing short time…to be precise just up the first question of “does this dress show enough of my ass?” That was when I short circuited a little because at that point I was supposed to look at woman’s half naked ass and answer in a fairly professional manner that she is indeed attractive.
From a model’s point of view that is a perfectly valid question to the Admin on the job right there. And it is as it should be. They should be able to trust the people they work with, guys and girls alike. They should feel comfortable around those people…and if you happen to be one of them. Try and be a grown up and deal with it appropriately. The environment is as such that sex is two steps away in most discussions so you either manage acting like a mature person about it or maybe it’s not exactly the place you should be in. As I already said, I have had moments in which I was fairly stumped for an answer or had to think a bit and choose my words carefully, but I’d like to think that I managed a pretty decent balancing act between close friend (which in turn gets you revealing much more about yourself than you’d want…but that’s how friends work, right?) and serious co-worker to let them know they could trust me.
And I’m not saying the “corporate-stick-up-your-ass” type of serious. You need to be relaxed enough to know when to tell a joke or take one as the case is and when to be serious if need be. The important thing is that you need to realize it’s about them and not you. And it’s as it should be. A model should always have the option of discussing and asking these things to help them improve in the image they are building out there for the thousands of men that come looking for the perfect woman on video chat sites.
All in all, the point I was trying to make in between all those lines of rambling was that if you do happen to find yourself on either side of the barricade, cam girl or admin, you should be aware that it is going to forge a unique sort of relationship. Not quite friends but not quite co-workers either. It’s an interesting thing that will definitely help you grow as a person and actually make you feel just a little proud of yourself. I’d like to think I did a decent job and helped the women I worked with feel just a little safer and better in their workplace. Or maybe I just really don’t know shit about earrings…not my judgement to make.
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